How to Become a Leader (Not Boss) That Even You Would Follow!


Let’s just get one thing straight- aspire to be a leader, not a boss.

The only reason is that there is no sure shot way of becoming a boss that everyone loves- of course, there are a few things one can do here and there that can make them a likable person, but everyone has a different kind of boss that they prefer to work under.

A leader, however, is almost always a person who is considered more valuable than a boss.

A prerequisite to becoming a leader is becoming a man who is likable in all aspects of life. So what are the things that they can change (or maintain) to become the leader (not boss) that everyone wants to follow?

  1.       Don’t Be Moody- Even If Your Employees Are Making You That Way

A leader is expected to be emotionally responsive- but there is no reason for the leader to become someone who is ruled by his emotions primarily.

A leader has an incredibly high emotional quotient. This means that he has to be empathetic. He has to be a good listener, one that people can comfortably confide in.

However, this does not mean that he can let his emotions or his moods disrupt or affect his ability to judge. In a dynamic environment, such as the office, it is quite obvious for a senior professional to be overcome by many negative emotions- anger, frustration, disappointment, to name a few.

This can be initiated by the actions of their employees- and many a times, this makes the leader believe that he has the right to vent at the source.

But an employee will only instill his trust in his employer if he believes that he has the capability of handling a situation regardless of how unmanageable it becomes- and including emotions in the mess only makes it worse. Would a person allow himself to be led by someone who voluntarily complicates situations further?

  1.       Don’t Take Superiority as a Right to Pass Judgments

Another sign of maturity becomes a leader’s ability to hold back his urge to pass judgments about his juniors, solely because of the difference in hierarchy and the fact that juniors can’t really say anything against him.

An employee does not disclose his secrets, or even things that are seemingly benign to have himself judged by his superior. An employee should always feel that his leader can handle some extra information about him- he doesn’t have to help, but where he needs an extra ear, the leader will be there to listen to him, unbiased by his emotions or judgments.

  1.       Always Have a Mentor/Superior You Look up To

Just because a boss is at a higher hierarchy, does not mean that there is nobody that he looks up to as an idol.

Every successful manager, mentor or leader adopts his habits or learns his techniques from some place. A leader, hence, should always have the sincerity to accept the fact that there are a lot of things that he may not know- and may need someone else’s opinion in.

This also gives his co-workers an image of him as a person who is grounded, one who feels no inferiority in accepting the fact that he does not know everything.

  1.       Always Be Positive

A leader has the right to break, yes- he has the right to be human and not be able to handle things.

But when the going gets tough, his juniors want to know that there is one person, out of the lot of the hassled, who can maintain a positive environment.

Things may be difficult for one to handle- situations may become unmanageable and this may lead to a spur of emotions. However, a good leader should stop, think for a moment and actually consider, whether letting go of his emotions at that moment or in that situation will help or not.

A leader, till the ending stage of the situation, should maintain a positive, progressive aura that motivates his employees to move forward. No matter how apt negative motivation may seem at a point, it will always drive employees into doing things out of fear and not simple will.

  1.       Never Compete- with Anyone

A boss may face a tendency to feel the need to become better than all other bosses- inherently becoming competitive. Let’s not even delve into the complexities of being competitive. A boss should focus on becoming the best that he wants to become. There is no need for him to feel the need to become better than someone else.

Now comes the main point- competing with juniors.

Why would a leader ever do that? Well, for a simple reason- to reassert his place.

Many a times a senior might have complexities regarding his own junior, and may sometimes feel that the junior is performing better than him. This may ignite the need in him to compete and to show himself better than the junior.

If people see that a junior is becoming better than his boss, they will acknowledge the junior’s intelligence. But they know that the boss is at a superior level because he has knowledge in some area that the junior may not possess. They know better than to compare the juniors and the senior, and those bosses who don’t let these opinions affect their performance, become leaders.  

  1.       Get Written Commitments

The sign of a good leader is one who trusts his juniors with what they say. However, to minimize the risk of them not turning in their work, a leader should, however small the task may be, get the same in writing.

For instance, a junior could send his senior an email with the tasks of the day. Of course, his initial reaction to that will be to write inflated tasks, which he will most probably not be able to complete.

The secret to nailing this is explaining to him why this is necessary- he needs to be able to complete the tasks that he gives his word for, so that people start taking him seriously.

This will make a leader accountable for his work as well as his team’s work. People will rely on him more, and his juniors will feel a sense of accomplishment every time they finish and successfully deliver everything they promise.

The easiest and the most convenient way to become a good leader is to stay calm, and understand all sides of the situation. With this, everything will come into perspective. If you feel like you are having a difficult time becoming a good leader to your juniors, take help from our expert coaches.


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